6 reasons why living with flatmates is soul destroying.

Hi all, So since leaving the comfort of my parent's home I have lived with a handful of different flatmates; each delightfully soul destroying in their own beautiful way. Sometimes I wonder if the anger that bubbles up inside of me is actually going to land me in jail, it would probably be easier there- at least you have your very own space to keep clean and that no one else can destroy. It's opened my eyes to the fact that I am an ultimate control freak, and whilst messiness doesn't bother me; dirtiness and ignorance does. So anyway, here I have put together the top 6 soul destroying things that occur when you share your living space with flatmates. Enjoy.

1. It ruins friendships. You may be moving in with someone who you consider to be your very best friend, but before living with each other, you weren't aware of their reluctance to perform (what you consider to be) simple acts such as flushing the toilet/taking the bins out (or even using bins in the first place). And unfortunately it turns a 'friendship' in to a living arrangement whereby there seems to be no equality.

2. Once you notice it, it only get's worse. Unfortunately, this is probably one of my biggest problems. It's like, once you realise something isn't done the way it should be, you seem to notice it time and time again and it just builds up inside you like this ticking time bomb waiting to explode.

3. You make plans, your flatmates plans come first. If you make a plan, invite someone over for dinner and a movie, or even just a cup of tea... and you forget to tell your flatmate this is the plan, then they are likely to bring a heard of elephants home leading to the swift termination of your plans and them being replaces with you trying to keep your home nice whilst they destroy it.

P.S: the worst is when the heard of elephants are drunk and manage to forget to pick up the toilet seat and then pee all over it and the floor (that you scrubbed and cleaned just hours before), and then you get up half asleep in the middle of the night and sit down on that sticky wet seat... AAAARGGHHHH

4. Dishes. Whether you consider your flatmate to be a clean/tidy person, it is inevitable that you feel like you do everything when comes to keeping your home nice. It's some form of selective perception. However, chances are, your flatmate thinks he/she does everything too, (even though you know they don't). Doing dishes is a nightmare, do you just do your own? Do you make a rota? Do you just do the dishes and get it out of the way? 

5. Clothes washing. You will never ever be 'on top of your washing' when you live with flatmates. Not unless you combine their washing with your own and do it for them. It is inevitable that you will both live with a backlog of washing, and that you will hate how long their washing takes to dry because you could really do with some clean clothes. 

6. Equality. Basically the most soul destroying part about living with flatmates. But I suppose my mum warned me: "Life's not fair Jessie". Basically, you will constantly make compromises, you will feel like 'compromising' takes up your entire life (and it does). 

I would give you some magnificent advice on how to handle it, but I really don't know the answers myself.